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#246: Lies You Believe About Sex

"I'm not loved if I'm not desired." "I don't deserve a great sex life." "God doesn't care about my pain." Your sexuality involves a spiritual battle between truth & lies.  Embracing God's truth means learning how to recognize the lies. Join Juli, Linda & Yvette to learn how.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Yvette Maher

Mentioned in this episode: Passion Pursuit

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  • Andrew Brassyhub

    Andrew Brassyhub

    I AM too wounded to be healed. I may be loved, but I am not desired. My wife cannot desire me. She's tried. So hard, for so long. We've prayed; we've done it all. But her orientation is lesbian. Now we're in our 70s, in an entirely sexless marriage. This is my/our thorn in the foot (St. Paul, 2 Corinthians 12.7-9). We have to learn to live without any hope of change.
  • Befuddled

    Befuddled

    Does anyone from AI ever bother to read comments? Or too busy excusing Christian women who don't want to have sex with their husbands because the women are frigid?
  • Andrew Brassyhub

    Andrew Brassyhub

    It certainly looks as if no one is responding. I've seen and read your message, and presumably you were responding to mine. I guess conservative Christians prefer to believe that God can and does answer all prayers and that He can and does change sexual orientation. In my reality, not the theory, He hasn't and He doesn't. Perhaps because He can't. Perhaps because He loves gays and lesbians as they are?
  • Befuddled

    Befuddled

    Andrew, yes, responding to your post indirectly. I feel for your situation, but good Christian men are just supposed to suck it up.:Despite the sexual bonding, that is important for marriage, never happening. Dedicate your life and get nothing, while absolute scoundrels are loved and adored and pleasure. As a person also looking for answers, myself, whom was told, save it for marriage... it will all work out... and believed it, only to discover that it hasn't. Decades of prayers unanswered. Such a simple matter, a little brain re-wiring. But no. I have zero doubt that God can turn some situations around, heal people, change hearts.... but it seems to work more for some people vs. others. No, I do not believe God wants homosexuals to stay the way they are. But some people may have been turned over to Satan, who knows. But we are assured repeatedly that God is all for marriage, that such is his will once we are married, and if it is his will, then when we pray in Jesus name, it should be answered. But instead problems and destruction arise from going about it the right way. And all we hear are excuses. Your wife decided to pursue lesbianism after you were married? I do think it is lousy for a "ministry" to not bother to respond to comments.
  • Jacci Roberts

    Jacci Roberts

    Hey Friends, we do indeed read ever comment. We often respond to personal messages in the comment section via email, as we have with Andrew. I hope you'll listen to our recent Java with Juli podcasts (#262 &#263) to hear how we encourage women to pursue sexual pleasure with their husbands. You might also be encouraged by our May webinar on pursuing healing for sexual brokenness and pain. You can find that on our monthly webinars page on our site!
  • Jacci Roberts

    Jacci Roberts

    Befuddled, I'm sorry to hear that you have been negatively affected by the message of the 90s "purity culture", i.e. "just save sex for marriage and all will be well". If you'd like to hear Dr. Slattery's take on that, I hope you'll check out episode #235 & 236. Thanks for being a part of our community!

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